Some news about our family

So happy to finally be able to share the fact that our family is growing and that as of March next year, Luca will be a big brother.

Having one child is a blessing, having two is a dream. I always knew I wanted two kids, maybe because I come from a family with two kids, but it has always seemed like the family I always pictured for myself. I cannot tell you how happy I am that we are pregnant and that this dream will come true. I think of the people who struggle with infertility and how difficult it must be to have to face so many challenges to become a parent. I do see pregnancy as something unique same as giving birth and I do consider myself beyond lucky to be able to experience it.

Having said this it does not mean that I do not find myself thinking of how much more challenging our lives will be after baby number 2 arrives. I know we will manage, but I am pretty sure we will struggle at least in the beginning. We live far away from our families and we rely mostly on each other. Also from my experience with Luca, newborns are not the easiest all the time and if I think of the lack of sleep then I can start picturing some not so nice moments for us…Here is to hoping that having a bit more experience this time around, will make things easier.

All in all, we are looking forward to life as a family of four since we know we are living the best years of our lives.

Happy to hear any advice from your experience with more than one kid. Please do share, as it takes a village to raise a family…

xox,

Andreea

 

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Fridays with Luca

Friday are my blessings. I look forward to this day all week, because I get to have that one day with Luca. Our day starts at 6 normally. He has potty time, when he usually sits on the potty, does the smelly business while looking at pictures in all his books. Funny, I know, but this is now a routine. I change him from his PJs and then we normally have breakfast. It can be bread and butter, oatmeal, milk and cereal or cheese. I have coffee and think of what I would like to get done that day. Around 9 we could go to the gym (babysitter service included in the gym subscription) but this rarely happens since it is also the time Luca gets sleepy (he’s been up from 6 remember) and then it’s nap time for him. I usually listen to a podcast while cooking or prepping things for lunch. Today I made lasagna. He might nap until 10.30-11 am. Once he is up he gets a snack (what the Swiss can Z’nuni): can be cucumber or other veggie, or just a cracker. Then it’s play time. Lunch happens after 12 and once we are done we either play at home or go for a walk. All depends on the weather. I like to also drive and go for grocery shopping on Fridays afternoon. Depending on how much sleep he got in the morning he will take a second nap in the afternoon. It can be in the car or in the stroller. He loves to nap while on the move. 4 o’clock is snack time. He gets fruits. Usually it’s banana, apples, pears. But last week he tried strawberries and loved them.

In the late afternoons it’s again time to play. Daddy comes home, dinner plans are made. He eats dinner around 7 with us. Bath time is every other night around 8, after which he has his bottle of milk and he goes to bed. I normally feel exhausted on Friday evenings. The week gets to me and my bed time is after 10 but there are days in which I would hop in bed at 9. I know…way too early, but I need my sleep.

So here it is, a day with Luca. I never thought I would love being a mama so much. Every day is filled with so much emotion and life that I wonder how were my days before Luca was here. Fun fact: when he was a few months old I would find myself dreaming of the days when I could just leave the house without having to plan and rethink the whole logistics of doing so with a baby attached to me. Now I don’t miss that freedom anymore. I might miss a long morning in bed from time to time, but our lives now are so much more than before. And this more is what gets me going every day.

My favourite pictures of the three of us are the ones below. We rarely get a picture with the 3 of us, usually is just Traian taking pictures of me and Luca. Thank you Emilia for being there that day and for taking these cools snapshots of us 3.

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Motherhood talks- Luca at 15 months

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Luca is 15 months and life is beautiful with a toddler running around the house. He is so happy and full of life that even in the earliest hours of the mornings it is contagious. Here is a list of activities that he does at this age.

Favourite time: Bath time. In the middle of the day he would run to the bathtub and ask for us to run the water so that he can take a bath. He just loves water and when I mention it is bath time, he is all smiles.

Favorite food: almost everything he has had so far he has loved. I believe avocado is always a winner, sweet potato and grilled salmon.

Least favourite food: so far polenta and swiss cheese. I tried giving him gruyere, ementaler but he just looks at it and throughs it on the floor. Mozzarella on the other hand is a favourite.

What makes him smile: seeing kittens. we live in an area with lots of cats so when we go for a walk we see quite a few of them. Luca observes everything so every kitten he sees he will point to it and make a sound, something like ehhhhh. Our neighbours cat naps on our terrace and as soon as we pointed that to him, he will go to the window and check the cat out. I think we will have to get a cat 🙂

What scares him: The kitchen aid. Yes, I am not kidding, as soon as he hears the noise from the kitchen aid he will start crying. It is the only appliance that has this effect on him.

What he started saying: He says quite a few words, but recently he started saying Mama when he is hungry and wants food. Let’s say I am feeding him and for a moment I get distracted, he will immediately start repeating mama mama mama mama and pointing at the food desperately :)))

Bedtime routine: these days he will ask for his bottle and hint that he is ready to sleep. While I change him and put his pyjamas he will call his Dad that is usually preparing his bottle. As soon as he sees the bottle he is all smiles.

Favourite toy: he likes his toys but he gets bored quite easily so he would play with each for a few minutes and then toss it apart. The only thing that keeps him occupied longer are books. He just loves to flip the pages and show me all the different pictures. He points at stuff in the pictures while speaking his own language.

Animal noises he masters: horse, turkey and owl. I know, quite the trio! Love that he is into animals and this past weekend he met his horse, that my Dad got for him (the horse is a she and her name is Brigitta and she is 6 months old). He was all smiles and it was hard to get him into the house and away from the animal. Of course my Dad was the proudest Grandpa.

First steps: Luca did his first steps on the 2nd of March. I was at home with him sitting on the floor. He got up keeping one hand on my shoulder and carefully he let go and made a few steps toward the couch on his own. But now he still does not want to let go of my hand. So hand in hand we are walking all day until he will feel ready to be independent.

xox,

Andreea

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10 things I wish I’d known before becoming a Mom.

 

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As a first time Mom most of the time you will feel overwhelmed. Overwhelmed by the change in your life, by the amount of new information it is thrown at you, by the love for this tiny human being and the list can go on. Now that 6 months have passed since I took on the role of a Mom, I asked myself what could have helped me to make this period easier. And here are the things I wish I’d known before becoming a fist time mom:

Most babies don’t sleep through the night in the first 6 months or the first year for that matter. Yes, some babies do sleep for 12 hours in a row but they are the exception, not the rule. You can try different methods, and it will happen eventually just don’t expect it to happen because you read somewhere that babies can do that. I read so much about sleep training and babies routines that I was expecting Luca to sleep all night by 3 months (also everyone with a baby around seemed to had mastered some kind of technique to get their little ones to sleep through the night). And when that did not happen for us I was sure I was doing something wrong, especially since everyone around was asking how he is sleeping. But after a few days of soul searching I realised that the pressure I was putting on myself was not doing us any good. Instead I started being more focused on making sure Luca was receiving all the love and the support he needed to sleep well for as long as he wanted (sometimes an hour, sometimes three or four). And in the end it paid off since he is napping like a champion and sleeping very well through the night.

Your body will surprise you and it won’t be for the worst. After I got pregnant and the weight was increasing I feared what will happen to my body after I gave birth. Will I ever look good again? Will I lose the weight after I give birth? How long before I will feel like myself? Well, to my surprise, the weight went away and my body recovered well after pregnancy and giving birth.

Giving birth is hard, but it’s not as bad as some people portray it to be. No matter how you chose to bring the child into the world (c-section, epidural or all natural) know that it is something that will pass and it won’t be the worst thing you had to endure in your life. (You can read my birth story here).

Breastfeeding might be all natural, but it also can be very challenging and not possible for everyone. This was my biggest disappointment as a new Mom, not being able to breastfeed my baby. I had so high hopes about this and I remember even dreaming one night before I gave birth how my child was grabbing my breast. Well, that did not happen and I had a few days of hell trying to figure out what to do. Also pumping can be painful and exhausting.

The first 3 months with your baby are the biggest challenge and are when you learn so much about you and your child. So be patient and when you feel hopeless remember that this too shall pass and better days will come. This was actually my mantra in the first months.

Nobody is safe from post partum depression. Even though I did not experience what you would call post partum depression, I am sure I was very close to one. It is important to know and be aware of the signs and if you feel alone, remember that you are not and talk to your dear ones about it.

Friends with babies are going to be on your speed dial from now on. They know a lot by now and they might be very resourceful. Keep them close!

Having help is not overrated. I used to think that after I give birth I will be able to do it all by myself. That was not the case at all, and besides the support from my husband, I also appreciated the help from my mother. If I could have afford it, I would have hired a full time nurse for the first weeks, especially since we don’t have family here.

Your sleep routine will change to the point that when you will sleep five or six hours in a row you will think that something is wrong. I always thought about myself that I was unable to function normally without my 8 hours of sleep. Well, I was wrong. Maybe you can’t climb mount Everest, but you get to do what needs to be done. And you get used to it and life goes on. Easy, ha?

With a child comes joy, happiness and a new life. Also a new kind of love that you have never experienced before. And the best part is that this love grows bigger and bigger every day. I am sure this is one of the reasons why people have more than one child. Also had I know these feelings before, probably I would have started earlier on having kids.

And some pictures with my sweetheart from yesterday when he turned 6 months old.

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Luca’s Christening

Luca was baptised as a christian on the 13th of April which coincided with the Easter Monday for the Orthodox church. It was a nice day and we were extremely blessed to have friends and family sharing the day with us. Luca was not particularly happy during the ceremony and the reason for that was that it was nap time. His nap schedule was all messed up because of the travelling so there was no way I could have planned his little meltdown. But the good thing was that after the ceremony he slept well and when it was picture time with all the guests he was an angel. Thank you again to all our friends and family! You mean the world to us!

It was a very happy day that I will remember with joy. We made quite some memories that I will gladly share with our Luca someday. But until that day arrives, here are some picture from the day.

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I am extremely glad that we hired a professional photographer. He is the best we worked with and I love the pictures. For the reception, we did some super cute arrangements. It was all last minute, but I am grateful for the talented people that worked with us.

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A big thank to the photographer, Vasi Vasut, and to Corina from Fabrica de Cadouri who helped us with the little details that made such a big difference.

xox,

Andreea

PS: I wore a PNK Casual lace dress for the church ceremony.

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A quick coffee run

We are big fans of coffee at our house. And honestly it is one of the incentives of getting up in the mornings when I am way too tired (Luca makes sure that I don’t get enough sleep). So whenever we have a moment to ourselves me and hubby either enjoy a cup at home or we make a coffee run in the city. We take Luca along of course and this past Sunday he was the sweetest boy, playing in his stroller while we chatted and enjoyed our coffee. It was a 45 minutes thing but it made our day since it reminded us of the things we love and that are still doable with a baby.

We took some pictures in the parking lot since it was raining and we did not take the raining cover for his pram. Luckily the coffee place was right outside the parking lot.

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I am wearing: Zara coat and jeans (old), Converse white sneakers, Kenzo scarf, Celine handbag

xo, Andreea

Ps: Happy Easter and long weekend! We are at our parents for the next 2 weeks.

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Baby Talk: 4 months old

Luca turned 4 months last week. I am still having an Awww moment every time I realise the special bond I have with him. We are the luckiest people in the world to have him in our lives. As any proud mamma out there I want to memorise every moment with him. So here is a list of his favourite activities at this age:

Playing: He likes toys especially the ones that can fit into his mouth. Everything goes into his mouth, from a simple napkin to a chewing toy. He sometimes gets nervous when he can’t put in his mouth the suspended toys from the activity mat. He is very much into us making funny faces and talking to him. He laughs and smiles every time I sing or talk to him and that just makes me fall even more in love with him.

Cuddling: He loves to cuddle and I am so happy because he makes this sweet little noise whenever I cover him in kisses, which happens all day and during the night when he is awake.

Sitting: He loves to sit up either between pillows or in our arms. He has a favourite position in his Dad’s arms, that he is very fond of, especially in the evenings. It’s like he is sitting in an armchair, he looks so comfy and happy. If he is cranky, his Dad would hold him, sing their special song while looking in the mirror. This calms him every time. We have tummy time and he is enjoying it more and more.

Sleeping: He wakes me up several times a night, either because his pacifier is not in his mouth, either because he is hungry. I still feed him once a night. By now I am used to being up sometimes every hour, and I really don’t mind it. I know he will sleep well eventually and I try to focus on the fact that he needs me now and I love being there for him. I keep thinking how comforting is to have someone there for you when you can’t fall asleep. I just hope that one day, soon enough, he will let me enjoy a full night sleep. We are working on that, so fingers crossed.

Eating: He is very much aware of the bottle and what it is for. Every time we feed him we show it to him and he just opens his mouth in expectation. We are going to start solid food as of next month since he seems more and more ready for more food. We have him sit with us at dinner time so he can watch us eat. I am hoping that when the time will come for him to see a spoon coming towards him, he will know what it is for and he will eat.

And some pictures of the little man since he turned 4 months.

 

 

 

xox, Andreea.

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Baby Talk: Activities with a 2 month old baby

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What have I been doing lately? Well besides getting to know my baby, not much. My mother was here for a week and having help was so good, that as soon as she left, I was depressed. Yes, depressed that I was again alone with no support during the day. Little did I know that I have all the support I needed in my baby. Yes, Luca is growing and is becoming this cute kid that loves to play and explore everything around him, starting with Mammy’s funny face. As they say, you need to feel bad before you feel good again. I have been researching a lot how to make the most of my time with him at home and here is what I have found to help.

Luca is now almost 11 weeks old. He is becoming more and more sociable, he laughs at us and makes funny sounds that we call baby talk. We answer with the same sounds to encourage a dialogue between us. He loves it. His schedule is still pretty hectic. He eats every 3 hours, he is up for more or less 1 hour, after which he gets tired and falls asleep. When he is awake, I was struggling to keep him interested and happy. Babies can get fussy real quick and with all the devices in the world I could not keep him smiling for long.

This until my mummy group recommended me a few activities. We signed up for baby swimming classes on First Flow and I have high hopes that he will like it. We start in March. Also among other classes we can try with a baby are: Pekip, mom baby yoga, baby massage class, kinder music class and a baby sensory class. Look for them in your region and they might be just what you need especially if you feel like leaving the house with the little one.

Also this website was eye opening. Luca hates tummy time and I was stressing so much about it, actually I was avoiding doing it with him. Until I read all about it on Cando kiddo. This and many more ideas to play and interact with your child can be found on the website. I hope you find it as helpful as I did.

Any other websites or activities you know about?

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Pictures with Luca on his activity mat that he is slowly starting to enjoy.

xox, Andreea

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A first glimpse of motherhood

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Our boy was 7 weeks this past Friday and I can’t begin to tell you how in love we are with him. Babies have this magic power that only by looking at them you just melt. And if it’s your own flesh and blood then you are in big trouble. The mix of feelings you get makes me think I am crazy sometimes. I can go from being this tired cranky human being to smiling in a few seconds, just by taking him into my arms. But motherhood is so much more than this and I am just grasping everything as we go along.

I have learned so much in the past few weeks, about me, about my husband and about my baby. We are growing together as a family and this is the greatest adventure of our life. The beginning was not easy. I won’t lie to you, but there were days in the first few weeks home when I resented myself for not being able to enjoy everything. I was tired, hormonal, the baby was crying and I could not see the beauty in anything around me. Everyone was congratulating me and “expecting” me to be this happy person and all I could feel was self pity and stress. I was so restless and so stressed that I could not relax one bit. I know a lot of women experience this with their first child but only after I lived through it I can really appreciate how hard it is to get used to being responsible for another life.

I am lucky it took only a few weeks for us and I managed to become myself again. I can now say that I am out of the woods and that I can finally enjoy the gift that I have been given: a healthy baby boy.

Here are a few things I learned so far:

Sleep when the baby sleeps sounds very easy but it takes getting used to. Trying to fall asleep in the middle of the day knowing that you only have two maybe three precious hours to yourself is not easy. But you just have to remind yourself that being rested is far more important than anything else you have to do. I call it sleep training for new parents.

Find support in your loved ones. It can be family members if you are lucky to have them close by or friends. I have also joined a mothers group on Facebook that has opened the gates to so much information from other women with more experience. It’s incredible how good it feels to hear that other people have gone through the same as you.

Get access to as much information as you can. From doctors, nurses, midwifes and people around you that you trust, to books and online reading material, you can find out so much about babies and how to deal with them. Ask questions, listen and then do as you want. Don’t feel pressured to follow anyone since every baby is different and we are different. What works for one, might not work for you.

Going out with the baby as soon as your doctor advises is ok and it helped me a lot. I was scared at first because I kept thinking, what if he starts crying and get’s hungry etc. But now, taking a walk with him sleeping in the pram is the best workout and relaxing time I could ask for.

During my pregnancy I focused so much on the birth that I did not pay enough attention to what was going to happen after the baby gets here. I honestly would tell every woman out there to not worry too much about the birth itself. Yes, it can be hard, even traumatic, but it also can be easy and the most important thing, it passes. What comes next on the other hand is so much more complex and it takes getting used to. So try to prepare mentally for the period after birth as well, when the baby is home. I am still sorry I did not took some classes for how to look after a newborn until age of 6 months. It would have made the first weeks home with the baby a lot more easier.

I keep a baby journal where I write at what time he easts and at what time he falls asleep so I have an idea of how much rest and how often he eats. This has worked for me, because being so tired at one point I was starting to forget the time it was when he last ate or slept. So keeping a log gave me some peace of mind and I think it will help in the future when we are going to try to get him into a sleeping routine.

Babies need to eat during the night so you might find yourself awake for a few hours in a row in the middle of the night and it can get pretty lonely. Find a show, Tv series or have some music running in the background, something to get you in an awake and relaxed mode for when you have to feed him. Luca is a good sleeper now, but in the beginning after I would feed him, because of tummy problems and silent reflux, it would take him up to two hours to go back to sleep. I was holding him in my arms, comforting him and helping him to fall asleep. Being tired myself in the quiet nights I would feel lonely, but thank God for Netflix and internet. Sunday night I watched the Golden Globes live on TV. Can’t wait for the Oscars…

Do you have any tips or lessons you want to pass along? Please leave a comment here or on Facebook. I am so happy to be able to share what I learned since I know that it might help someone out there. Sharing is caring especially when it comes to our children’s well being.

xox, Andreea.

 

 

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Baby Bump Evolution

When I found out that I was pregnant I did not know what to expect. The only thing I knew for sure was that I couldn’t wait for my baby bump to start showing. I was so looking forward to seeing how my belly will look mostly because then it was certain that my baby was growing and developing normally. Each week we tried to take the same photo to see how the belly was evolving. I want to have these memories over the years and share them with Luca when he is old enough to understand. I still regret not having a picture of my Mum pregnant as I am sure it would have been so cool to see that. So here it goes, a picture from every second week with the Luca bump. I miss it a bit, but then I look at Luca now and I am so happy I can hold him in my arms.

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xoxo, Andreea!

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